The thing with Indian parents – they are completely unpredictable. Now, this post is about the time my parents met my bae’s parents. With typical Indian parents, you can expect a lot of drama when it comes to the wedding of their kids. Of course, Indian weddings are no less than a festival, so yes, why not! But as I said, they are completely unpredictable, so there I was – sitting with them without any drama.
Also, consider this as a post on how to talk to Indian parents.
I have talked enough about my bae on this blog. That is all I know about him, trust me. I have actually known him for 3 years – precisely 3 years – and in these 3 years, I dated him, spent two years 1000 miles apart and married him too. That is a lot, what do you expect out of me? 4 posts are enough to wind up these 3 years.
However, now that I am married to him, I really want to document the story of my wedding. And that is not because it was one hell of a wedding (you bet!) but because it’s my blog, so my say.
While almost every girl dreams of her wedding, I was not really keen on getting married. But damn, getting married is a big deal. And more than that, planning a wedding is the real deal.
But the first step that you have to take when you decide to marry a guy of your choice is to inform your parents about it. No, that is not optional. And with Indian parents, it’s a different story altogether.
This particular post is the story of my parents meeting his parent.
There is no particular story I have to share about the time when I broke the news to my parents. Well, my sister did it. And then the regular drama followed you know – parents being upset, then mad, then I leave for a holiday to come back only after things have settled down. Hah, the usual!
I have nailed the art of escapism. Please contact me in case you need some help!
So, after my parents met Bae, they were convinced that I couldn’t have done better than him. They wanted to meet his parents and take the next step. All right, this usually happens, but I did not know it will happen so fast.
How did it happen?
His parents are from Kanpur, and they travelled to Delhi to meet my parents. His parents are pretty chilled out. So, that was a significant reason for me to really hyperventilate. It could have been too much coolness for my parents to handle.
Now, the reason why this remains one of my favourite things to talk about my wedding is that we prepared the most for this day than planning the actual wedding.
While I was hyperventilating and not really talking about it to anyone, bae was all chilled out. Even after knowing him for three years, I don’t know how he manages to do that! So, we decided to meet a day before and talk.
That is our 8 pages of discussion (yes, we planned out every scenario on paper, just in case one of us forgets, read I forget!) summarized.
Parents are parents
Bae’s parents were living in this hotel in Delhi and we decided to meet in the coffee shop of the hotel.
Always remember to choose a place which is quiet and sophisticated. If you need to, tell the servers that this meeting needs a minimum or no interruption at all.
Also, it is a good idea to meet over high tea/coffee than over lunch or dinner because you want to have a conversation!
And one last tip – dress accordingly. Don’t be too casual or too formal. And don’t dress up in something which you know might not be liked by his/her family. Like you won’t suggest track pants and a t-shirt – no one will ever suggest that.
Both of us were nervous when we all sat at our table. But things turned out to be smoother than we thought. My parents were pretty happy to know them and so were his parents.
Now there are a hell lot of things to discuss – the hows, whats and whys of a typical Indian wedding are crazy – and we thought that this was going to take a lot of our time. I will give you some examples. For a girl’s parent in India, it is very important to know if the guy’s parents need any gifts. It was important for us to decide the location of the wedding – Delhi or Kanpur or some new exotic place. How the wedding rituals were to be finalized. So on and so forth!
But nothing like a lengthy conversation, both the couples were very adjusting. All they said was let the kids decide and do what they want to do. That was a relief. But was it?
Here is a happy picture of that day!
The rollercoaster ride began just after this happy day! And I can not wait to share everything with you guys! Sorry, but no sorry!
Oh yes, we also decided to get married sometime in March/April. That was also decided during this meeting – but it was something bae already had in his mind much, much before this! *sigh*